i appreciate your help but this has gotten too complicated. How can i direct a domain to point to another hosting site?
If you are just going to have someone do all the legwork and get stuff working, then yes: 'what is the point? Do I need to do this?' makes it irrelevant almost.
If you are doing this to get IRC/SMTP access, then the point is to learn some internet service hosting fundamentals. If you can get it working with IPv4, then it should be relatively similar/easy for IPv6. You could try reading some Microsoft Press books/documentation for IIS and go from there.